Sexual Health

When was sex the most vital and satisfying in your present relationship? What did you most value about it? If it is diff erent now, what can you do to revitalize sex in your relationship? What questions do you have of your male friends that will increase your understanding of yourself and sexuality? Especially important are present questions or concerns about sex, women, and relationships. As you and your friends engage in this discussion, stay focused on the goals of sharing information, attitudes, experiences, feelings and learnings in a helpful, honest, cooperative manner— not competition or put-downs. Knowledge is power.

Traditionally, men have not shared knowledge or experiences in a supportive or helpful manner. Hopefully, this exercise will facilitate your doing so and establish a base for healthy thinking about male sexuality. What if you can’t do this exercise? If this exercise is more than you can arrange, ask yourself some questions for your own learning: What prevents you from arranging and conducting this discussion? Is it that you don’t feel you have buddies you can confi de with? Are you afraid of rejection if you’re honest? Are you ashamed of your honest sexual feelings or past? What are ways for you to enhance your sexual health other than this men’s discussion group exercise? Could you respond to the 11 questions in your personal journal? Could you talk with your partner and openly share your experiences, feelings, and learnings with her?